Dear Abby advises a man on his relationship and his boyfriend’s boss.
I am a man whose long-distance boyfriend of one year has a married female best friend. (She’s his boss.) She is also a tobacco-addicted narcissist who drinks a lot. They chat on the phone and text for hours every day because, as he puts it, “she can’t be alone.” I think she uses him to compensate for her insecurities. I also think she’s a bad influence on him.
We see each other only every other week because of the physical distance between us, and then only for a day and a half. Last weekend while I was there, she texted him and asked if we would come spend the evening and drink with her. I told him absolutely not! I am protective of our time together and have no desire to spend any time with her.
The closeness they share really bothers me. They have been friends for 20 years, but their relationship feels weirdly close to me. It’s almost like a pseudo romance. I don’t know what to do. I really love this man, but I often feel like a third wheel. We talk every night, and he mentions her every single night.
