Dear Abby advises an individual who lost their friend of 50 years and now feels confused about why her family is ignoring them.
My friend of 50 years passed away a few months ago. I sent a fruit basket to her family and tried calling, but I was unable to get through. I couldn’t reach them via email or text either. I also sent a sympathy card. I heard nothing back from her husband or the daughter I am closest to. She’s my godchild, and I was always involved in her life.
Nobody contacted me to tell me where they were going to have her wake. Luckily, I found out, so I did attend. Her family had tables set up with photos, including one with photos from her teenage years. A few pictures of her and another one of her friends from that period were on the table, but none included me.
We did remain friends throughout the years, seeing each other occasionally, especially when our children were young and more often during her illness. Her illness lasted a year before she died, so I couldn’t understand why I was being ignored.
