In Taylor Swift’s album «The Tortured Poets Department,» she says «she can fix him.» Here’s why five experts say you can’t fix the person you’re dating.
If there’s anything Taylor Swift’s new album «The Tortured Poets Department» has taught me, it’s that no one is immune to the fuckery that comes from being in a situationship. Not even Swift herself. Despite being a professed romantic, even Swift has been «down bad» for mediocre dudes with tattoos.
But among the many relationship experiences Swift candidly alludes to throughout «TTPD,» perhaps the most relatable lyric comes from track 11: «I Can Fix Him (No Really I Can).» In it, Swift sings, «They shake their heads saying ‘God help her’ when I tell them he’s my man. But your good lord doesn’t need to lift a finger, I can fix him — no, really, I can.»
For anyone who’s ever thought they could fix someone, and has since lived to tell the tale, you know all too well that it’s a canon event. It allows women everywhere to attempt to fix someone only to eventually realize the hard way that people can’t be fixed — not even the super hot Tinder match who swears they’re «really into you.»
«If you want to be with someone that you think you can ‘fix,’ you are setting yourself up for disappointment,» clinical psychologist Roxy Zarrabi, PsyD, says. «Pursuing a relationship with the hope that someone will change is similar to accepting crumbs and hoping for a meal that never arrives.»
Because you may read the above and still think «OK, but I can actually fix him,» we had Dr.
